Do you often feel lonely and sad? Do you long for romance and are willing to do whatever it takes to meet that special person? Speaking another language could revolutionize your love life! So, why wait? Learning how to say ‘love’ in Dutch could be just what you need to find it.
Or perhaps you were lucky, and have found your Dutch partner already. Fantastic! Yet, a cross-cultural relationship comes with unique challenges. Learning how to speak your lover’s language will greatly improve your communication and enhance the relationship. At DutchPod101, our team will teach you all the words, quotes and phrases you need to woo your Dutch lover with excellence! Our tutors provide personal assistance, with plenty of extra material available to make Dutch dating easy for you.
Table of Contents
- Common Phrases You’ll Need for a Date
- The Most Romantic Ideas for a Date
- Must-know Valentine’s Day Vocabulary
- Dutch Love Phrases for Valentine’s Day
- Dutch Quotes about Love
- Marriage Proposal Lines
- 15 Most Common Break-Up Lines
- Will Falling in Love Help You Learn Dutch Faster?
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1. Common Phrases You’ll Need for a Date
So, you have met your Dutch love interest. Congratulations! Who knows where this could take you…?! However, the two of you have just met and you’re not ready to say the Dutch word for love just yet. Great, it is better to get to know him/her first. Wow your prospective love by using these Dutch date phrases to set up a spectacular first date.
Would you like to go out to dinner with me?
- Heb je zin om met mij uiteten te gaan ?
The important question! In most cultures, this phrase indicates: ‘I’m romantically interested in you’. Flirting in Dutch is no different, so don’t take your date to Mcdonald’s!
Are you free this weekend?
- Ben je dit weekend vrij?
This is a preamble to asking your love interest on a date. If you get an immediate ‘Yes’, that’s good news!
Would you like to hang out with me?
- Heb je zin om samen iets te gaan doen ?
You like her/him, but you’re not sure if there’s chemistry. Ask them to hang out first to see if a dinner date is next.
What time shall we meet tomorrow?
- Hoe laat zullen we morgen afspreken?
Set a time, and be sure to arrive early! Nothing spoils a potential relationship more than a tardy date.
Where shall we meet?
- Waar zullen we afspreken ?
You can ask this, but also suggest a place.
You look great.
- Je ziet er goed uit.
A wonderful ice breaker! This phrase will help them relax a bit – they probably took great care to look their best just for you.
You are so cute.
- Je bent zo schattig.
If the two of you are getting on really well, this is a fun, flirtatious phrase to use.
What do you think of this place?
- Wat vind je van deze plek?
This another good conversation starter. Show off your Dutch language skills!
Can I see you again?
- Mag ik je nog eens zien ?
So the date went really well – don’t waste time! Make sure you will see each other again.
Shall we go somewhere else?
- Zullen we ergens anders naartoe gaan?
If the place you meet at is not great, you can suggest going elsewhere. It is also a good question to follow the previous one. Variety is the spice of life!
I know a good place.
- Ik weet een leuke plek.
Use this with the previous question. However, don’t say if you don’t know a good place!
I will drive you home.
- Ik zal je naar huis rijden.
If your date doesn’t have transport, this is a polite, considerate offer. However, don’t be offended if she/he turns you down on the first date. Especially a woman might not feel comfortable letting you drive her home when the two of you are still basically strangers.
That was a great evening.
- Dat was een geweldige avond.
This is a good phrase to end the evening with.
When can I see you again?
- Wanneer kan ik je weer zien?
If he/she replied ‘Yes’ to ‘Can I see you again?’, this is the next important question.
I’ll call you.
- Ik zal je bellen.
Say this only if you really mean to do it. In many cultures, this could imply that you’re keeping the proverbial backdoor open.
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2. The Most Romantic Ideas for a Date
You learned all the Dutch phrases to make a date – congratulations! Now you have to decide where to meet, which can be tricky. Discuss these options with your lover to gauge whether you like the same things. Check out romantic date ideas in Dutch below!
museum
- museum
If you’re looking for unique date ideas that are fun but won’t break the bank, museums are the perfect spot! You won’t be running out of things to say in the conversations.
candlelit dinner
- diner bij kaarslicht
A candlelit dinner is perhaps best to reserve for when the relationship is getting serious. It’s very intimate, and says: “Romance!” It’s a fantastic choice if you’re sure you and your date are in love with each other!
go to the zoo
- naar de dierentuin gaan
This is a good choice for shy lovers who want to get the conversation going. Just make sure your date likes zoos, as some people dislike them. Maybe not for the first date, but this is also a great choice if your lover has children – you’ll win his/her adoration for inviting them along!
go for a long walk
- een lange wandeling maken
Need to talk about serious stuff, or just want to relax with your date? Walking together is soothing, and a habit you can keep up together always! Just make sure it’s a beautiful walk that’s not too strenuous.
go to the opera
- naar de opera gaan
This type of date should only be attempted if both of you love the opera. It can be a special treat, followed by a candlelit dinner!
go to the aquarium
- naar een aquarium gaan
Going to the aquarium is another good idea if you need topics for conversation, or if you need to impress your lover’s kids! Make sure your date doesn’t have a problem with aquariums.
walk on the beach
- een strandwandeling maken
This can be a very romantic stroll, especially at night! The sea is often associated with romance and beauty.
have a picnic
- gaan picknicken
If you and your date need to get more comfortable together, this can be a fantastic date. Spending time in nature is soothing and calms the nerves.
cook a meal together
- samen een maaltijd koken
If you want to get an idea of your date’s true character in one go, this is an excellent date! You will quickly see if the two of you can work together in a confined space. If it works, it will be fantastic for the relationship and create a sense of intimacy. If not, you will probably part ways!
have dinner and see a movie
- dineren en naar de film gaan
This is traditional date choice works perfectly well. Just make sure you and your date like the same kind of movies!
3. Must-know Valentine’s Day Vocabulary
Expressing your feelings honestly is very important in any relationship all year round. Yet, on Valentine’s Day you really want to shine. Impress your lover this Valentine’s with your excellent vocabulary, and make his/her day! We teach you, in fun, effective ways, the meanings of the words and how to pronounce them. You can also copy the characters and learn how to write ‘I love you’ in Dutch – think how impressed your date will be!
4. Dutch Love Phrases for Valentine’s Day
So, you now have the basic Valentine’s Day vocabulary under your belt. Well done! But, do you know how to say ‘I love you’ in Dutch yet? Or perhaps you are still only friends. So, do you know how to say ‘I like you’ or ‘I have a crush on you’ in Dutch? No? Don’t worry, here are all the love phrases you need to bowl over your Dutch love on this special day!
I love you.
- Ik hou van je.
Saying ‘I love you’ in Dutch carries the same weight as in all languages. Use this only if you’re sure and sincere about your feelings for your partner/friend.
You mean so much to me.
- Je betekent ontzettend veel voor me.
This is a beautiful expression of gratitude that will enhance any relationship! It makes the receiver feel appreciated and their efforts recognized.
Will you be my Valentine?
- Wil jij mijn Valentijn zijn?
With these words, you are taking your relationship to the next level! Or, if you have been a couple for a while, it shows that you still feel the romance. So, go for it!
You’re so beautiful.
- Je bent zo mooi.
If you don’t know how to say ‘You’re pretty’ in Dutch, this is a good substitute, gentlemen!
I think of you as more than a friend.
- Ik zie in jou in meer dan alleen een vriend.
Say this if you are not yet sure that your romantic feelings are reciprocated. It is also a safe go-to if you’re unsure about the Dutch dating culture.
A hundred hearts would be too few to carry all my love for you.
- Honderd harten zijn te weinig om al mijn liefde voor je te dragen.
You romantic you…! When your heart overflows with love, this would be the best phrase to use.
Love is just love. It can never be explained.
- Liefde is gewoon liefde. Er is geen verklaring voor.
If you fell in love unexpectedly or inexplicably, this one’s for you.
You’re so handsome.
- Je bent zo knap.
Ladies, this phrase lets your Dutch love know how much you appreciate his looks! Don’t be shy to use it; men like compliments too.
I’ve got a crush on you.
- Ik ben verliefd op je.
If you like someone, but you’re unsure about starting a relationship, it would be prudent to say this. It simply means that you like someone very, very much and think they’re amazing.
You make me want to be a better man.
- Je zorgt er voor dat ik een betere man wil zijn.
Gentlemen, don’t claim this phrase as your own! It hails from the movie ‘As Good as it Gets’, but it is sure to make your Dutch girlfriend feel very special. Let her know that she inspires you!
Let all that you do be done in love.
- Laat alles wat je doet uit naam van de liefde zijn.
We hope.
You are my sunshine, my love.
- Mijn liefste, jij bent mijn zonneschijn.
A compliment that lets your lover know they bring a special quality to your life. Really nice!
Words can’t describe my love for you.
- Woorden kunnen mijn liefde voor jou niet omschrijven.
Better say this when you’re feeling serious about the relationship! It means that your feelings are very intense.
We were meant to be together.
- Wij zijn voor elkaar bestemd.
This is a loving affirmation that shows you see a future together, and that you feel a special bond with your partner.
If you were thinking about someone while reading this, you’re definitely in love.
- Als je aan iemand denk terwijl je dit leest ben je zeker verliefd.
Here’s something fun to tease your lover with. And hope he/she was thinking of you!
5. Dutch Quotes about Love
You’re a love champ! You and your Dutch lover are getting along fantastically, your dates are awesome, your Valentine’s Day together was spectacular, and you’re very much in love. Good for you! Here are some beautiful phrases of endearment in Dutch that will remind him/her who is in your thoughts all the time.
6. Marriage Proposal Lines
Wow. Your Dutch lover is indeed the love of your life – congratulations! And may only happiness follow the two of you! In most traditions, the man asks the woman to marry; this is also the Dutch custom. Here are a few sincere and romantic lines that will help you to ask your lady-love for her hand in marriage.
7. 15 Most Common Break-Up Lines
Instead of moving towards marriage or a long-term relationship, you find that the spark is not there for you. That is a pity! But even though breaking up is never easy, continuing a bad or unfulfilling relationship would be even harder. Remember to be kind to the person you are going to say goodbye to; respect and sensitivity cost nothing. Here are some phrases to help you break up gently.
- We moeten praten.
This is not really a break-up line, but it is a good conversation opener with a serious tone.
It’s not you. It’s me.
- Het ligt niet aan jou maar aan mij.
As long as you mean it, this can be a kind thing to say. It means that there’s nothing wrong with your Dutch lover as a person, but that you need something different from a relationship.
I’m just not ready for this kind of relationship.
- Ik ben gewoon nog niet klaar voor zo’n soort relatie.
Things moved a bit fast and got too intense, too soon? Painful as it is, honesty is often the best way to break up with somebody.
Let’s just be friends.
- Laten we gewoon vrienden zijn.
If the relationship was very intense, and you have sent many ‘i love u’ texts in Dutch, this would not be a good breakup line. Feelings need to calm down before you can be friends, if ever. If the relationship has not really developed yet, a friendship would be possible.
I think we need a break.
- Ik denk dat we even rust nodig hebben.
This is again honest, and to the point. No need to play with someone’s emotions by not letting them know how you feel. However, this could imply that you may fall in love with him/her again after a period of time, so use with discretion.
You deserve better.
- Je verdient beter.
Yes, he/she probably deserves a better relationship if your own feelings have cooled down.
We should start seeing other people.
- Het is tijd om andere mensen te ontmoeten.
This is probably the least gentle break-up phrase, so reserve it for a lover that doesn’t get the message!
I need my space.
- Ik heb ruimte nodig.
When a person is too clingy or demanding, this would be an suitable break-up phrase. It is another good go-to for that lover who doesn’t get the message!
I think we’re moving too fast.
- Ik denk dat we te snel gaan.
Say this if you want to keep the relationship, but need to slow down its progress a bit. It is also good if you feel things are getting too intense for your liking. However, it is not really a break-up line, so be careful not to mislead.
I need to focus on my career.
- Ik moet me concentreren op mijn carrière.
If you feel that you will not be able to give 100% in a relationship due to career demands, this is the phrase to use. It’s also good if you are unwilling to give up your career for a relationship.
I’m not good enough for you.
- Ik ben niet goed genoeg voor je.
Say this only if you really believe it, or you’ll end up sounding false. Break-ups are usually hard for the receiving party, so don’t insult him/her with an insincere comment.
I just don’t love you anymore.
- Ik hou niet meer van je.
This harsh line is sometimes the best one to use if you are struggling to get through to a stubborn, clingy lover who won’t accept your break up. Use it as a last resort. Then switch your phone off and block their emails!
We’re just not right for each other.
- We zijn gewoon niet voor elkaar bedoeld.
If this is how you truly feel, you need to say it. Be kind, gentle and polite.
It’s for the best.
- Het is het beste.
This phrase is called for if circumstances are difficult and the relationship is not progressing well. Love should enhance one’s life, not burden it!
We’ve grown apart.
- We zijn uit elkaar gegroeid.
Cross-cultural relationships are often long-distance ones, and it is easy to grow apart over time.
8. Will Falling in Love help you Learn Dutch faster?
Most people will agree that the above statement is a no-brainer – of course it will! Your body will be flooded with feel-good hormones, which are superb motivators for anything. DutchPod101 is one of the best portals to help help make this a reality, so don’t hesitate to enroll now! Let’s quickly look at the reasons why falling in love will speed up your learning of the Dutch language.
Three Reasons Why Having a Lover will Help you Learn Dutch Faster!
1- Being in a love relationship with your Dutch speaking partner will immerse you in the culture
DutchPod101 uses immersive methods and tools to teach you Dutch, but having a relationship with a native speaker will be a very valuable addition to your learning experience! You will gain exposure to their world, realtime and vividly, which will make the language come alive even more for you. The experience is likely to expand your world-view, which should motivate you to learn Dutch even faster.
2- Having your Dutch romantic partner will mean more opportunity to practice speaking
Nothing beats continuous practice when learning a new language. Your partner will probably be very willing to assist you in this, as your enhanced Dutch language skills will enhance the relationship. Communication is, after all, one of the most important pillars of a good partnership. Also, you will get to impress your lover with the knowledge gained through your studies – a win/win situation!
3- A supportive Dutch lover is likely to make a gentle, patient teacher and study aid!
With his/her heart filled with love and goodwill for you, your Dutch partner is likely to patiently and gently correct your mistakes when you speak. This goes not only for grammar, but also for accent and meaning. With his/her help, you could sound like a native in no time!
Three Reasons Why DutchPod101 helps you learn Dutch Even Faster when you’re In Love
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1- All the Resources and Materials Will Help Both of You
Falling in love with a man or woman speaking Dutch is an opportunity for both of you to learn a new language! For this reason, every lesson, transcript, vocabulary list, and resource at DutchPod101 is translated into both English and Dutch. So, while your partner can help you learn Dutch faster, you can potentially also help him/her learn and master English!
2- Lessons Are Designed to Help You Understand and Engage with Dutch Culture
At DutchPod101, our focus is to help our students learn practical vocabulary and phrases used by everyday people in Netherlands. This means that, from your very first lesson, you can apply what you learn immediately! So, when your Dutch partner wants to go out to a restaurant, play Pokemon Go, or attend just about any social function, you have the vocabulary and phrases necessary to have a great time!
3- Access to Special Resources Dedicated to Romantic Dutch Phrases
You now have access to DutchPod101’s specially-developed sections and tools to teach you love words, phrases, and cultural insights to help you find and attract your Dutch soul mate. A personal tutor will assist you to master these brilliantly – remember to invite him/her to your wedding!
